Being reading up on some narcissism, in an enlightening book titled Why is it always about you? by Sandy Hotchkiss (which I found used at a bookstore in Panajachel, Sololá). The healing has begun, friends:

“The tendency is to recreate the dramas of our earlier life in an effort to write new endings, but if we approach these reparative relationships without awareness or a firm grasp on reality, and with an inability to set limits, we are unlikely to have the same outcomes as before.

If, on the other hand, we understand our vulnerabilities, see clearly through the illusions of our desires and the distortions of our fears, and find the courage to protect ourselves from those who would use us without regard for our separateness, we can change the course of our own lives. Choosing healthy friends and lovers is a very good place to begin”

the me me generation time magazine cover

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